We all hope for marriages to start off on a good note, but what happens when they don't? No one has more experience with weddings than the planners, photographers, etc. that work them. Redditor u/HHS2019 asked, "Marriage/engagement photographers/videographers of Reddit, have you developed a sixth sense for which marriages will flourish and which will not? What are the... red flags?" and the internet delivered with their responses. Vote up the biggest red flags!
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When The Bride Or Groom Is Super Quiet
From Redditor u/Compulsive-Gremlin:
Ex wedding photographer.
Typically I saw red flags when the bride or groom is super quiet. I mean silent and just watching.
One instance was a groom who barely said 10 words to anyone during the ceremony or reception afterwards. The bride and her mother were extremely loud and excited the entire time. The bride needed everything to be “perfect.” I dropped off the photo bundle with them two weeks later, and he was still quiet. She, however, complained about all of the pictures because the groom wasn’t “smiling enough.” She wanted a discount because I couldn’t make him look happy enough.
They got divorced about a year later. I know because I did his engagement photos with his new fiancee about four years after his first wedding. His engagement photos showed him much happier.Red flag?
- 2357 VOTES
When One Person Tries To Change The Other
From Redditor u/c64bandit:
Wedding videographer here: I try to get to know both people beforehand, so I can work... their hobbies/unique traits into my product. A big red flag is when one person is clearly trying to change the other. I had one dude who loved poker, craft beer, cigars, hanging with his rowdy friends, video games, etc. I planned a cool shoot where I had all his friends in an Old West saloon, and he sees his bride to be, etc... but she steps in and declares, "Oh, he won't be doing any of those things anymore." Poor b*stard just sat there in silence as I awkwardly had to plan them shopping for a Yorkie puppy instead. Halfway through post-production after the wedding, he called and said he was getting an annulment. I wanted to say, "Could have told ya so!" But I try to stay neutral.Red flag?
- 3402 VOTES
Videographer - Bride Swears During Letter Read
From Redditor u/flyingthedonut:
Former wedding videographer. When doing the letter read, the bride at the end said, which I quote, "Well that was f*cking stupid." I cut that part out in the final video.
Let me clarify what I'm referring to. The couple reads their letter from their partner prior to the wedding. She just got done reading the groom's letter and was talking about what he wrote. To be fair, what he wrote was not exactly Shakespeare but still a harsh response.Red flag?
- 4430 VOTES
Videographer - Meltdowns In Paradise
From Redditor u/Aeonasphere:
Wedding videographer here.
Had a couple fly us out to Iceland for their engagement shoot. Now the first couple of days were fine and everything looked okay, but in Iceland, some lodging options aren’t very luxurious. The groom chose to book what was essentially a tiny bunkhouse (the ones meant for those summer camps), and the bride lost it and complained the whole night.
Next morning things are pretty tense and our team continues the shoot as planned even though it is incredibly awkward. Most of our plans fall through because they start arguing.
In front of a beautiful, solitary glacier.
For two hours.
Our team can hear them yelling at each other half a mile away because there is literally no one else around for miles.
We finish up whatever we could of the last day of the shoot and awkwardly said our goodbyes. Later on I learn that they broke up a month before the wedding.Red flag?