A Wedding Photographer Turns The Tables On A Bully After A Former Friend Goes Full Groomzilla

As most regular readers of Reddit know, weddings can be a sore spot for many and a hotbed of entitlement, as the stress of the big day mixed with a "complex" personality can often end in chaos. Such is the case for Redditor u/Icy-Reserve6995, a dog groomer with a talent for photography who tried her best to help a friend in need on his wedding day. Sadly, he was a groomzilla in the making.

After the groom delivered an unfair ultimatum to the photographer, the photographer acted accordingly, but now feels guilty about her decisions. So she took the story to the court of public opinion and asked fellow Redditors if she was the a**hole in the situation. Needless to say, the answer was swift.

Here is her story: 

  • What Started As A Cute Hobby Became Friendly Favor For A Friend Getting Married

    From Redditor u/Icy-Reserve6995:

    "I'm not really a photographer, I'm a dog groomer. I take lots of photos of dogs all day to put on my Facebook and Instagram, it's "my thing" if that makes sense. A cut and a photo with every appointment. I very seldom shoot things other than dogs even if I have a nice set up.

    A friend got married a few days ago and wanting to save money, asked if I'd shoot it for them. I told him it's not really my forte but he convinced me by saying he didn't care if they were perfect: they were on a shoestring budget and I agreed to shoot it for $250, which is nothing for a 10 hour event."

  • On The Day Of The Wedding, The OP Took Pictures From Morning Until Night In Extreme Heat With No Break

    From Redditor u/Icy-Reserve6995:

    "On the day of, I'm driving around following the bride as she goes from appointment to appointment before the ceremony, taking photos along the way. I shoot the ceremony itself, and during the reception I'm shooting speeches and people mingling.

    I started around 11 am and was due to finish around 7:30 p.m. Around 5 p.m., food is being served and I was told I cannot stop to eat because I need to be photographer; in fact, they didn't save me a spot at any table. 

    I'm getting tired and at this point kinda regretting doing this for next to nothing. It's also unbelievably hot: the venue is in an old veteran's legion and it's like 110F and there's no A/C."

  • After Six Hours Of Work, The Photographer Asked The Groom For A Small Break And Instead Was Given An Ultimatum

    From Redditor u/Icy-Reserve6995:

    "I told the groom I need to take off for 20 minutes to get something to eat and drink. There's no open bar or anything. I can't even get water and my two water bottles are long empty. 

    He tells me I need to either be the photographer, or leave without pay."

  • So After She Is Backed Into A Corner, The Photographer Made A Choice And Acted Accordingly

    From Redditor u/Icy-Reserve6995:

    "With the heat, being hungry, being generally annoyed at the circumstances, I asked if he was sure, and he said yes, so I deleted all the photos I took in front of him and took off saying I'm not his photographer anymore. 

    If I was to be paid $250, honestly at that point I would have paid $250 just for a glass of cold water and somewhere to sit for 5 minutes.

    Was I the a**hole? They went right on their honeymoon and they've all been off of social media, but a lot of people have been posting on their wall asking about photos with zero responses."

  • People Were Quick To Defend The Photographer, Stating Inhumane And Possibly Dangerous Working Conditions  

    From Redditor u/mon0chromPartassipant:   

    "Not the a**hole at all. You could have risked your health and they treated you like sh*t."

    From Redditor u/Tanooki07Partassipant:

    "Like they seriously expected her to work for 8.5 hours without food, with little water, and no break. She was doing this as a favor and not because of the money. How did they think this would go? OP should tell her side before they come back. They're going to spin this to make OP sound evil."

    From Redditor u/AbbyBirbSupreme:

    "Not the a**hole.

    They took you off the guest list for this without mentioning it to you in advance.

    You went in with the expectation of $250 to take high quality pictures... while also being a guest at their event (including a place to sit, eat & drink)

    And realistically, you did nothing but follow the grooms suggestion. Either continue being a photographer or forfeit your $250.

    What did the groom think that entailed? He would get all that work for free?

    Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

    I would seriously reconsider this friendship."

  • People Also Shared Stories Of How They Treated Photographers As Guests And With Respect

    From Redditor u/LittleGreenSoldier:

    "Our photographer was/is a good friend of my sister-in-law, we made sure we included her in the headcount and reserved a seat for her. Our officiant was also invited to stay, but she had to run to do another wedding. The DJ was provided by the venue and got his own breaks as their employee.

    I don't understand these people who think they're, what, renting a slave for the day?" 

    From Redditor u/jilliecatt:

    "Friend from elementary and middle school is going to do my photos. You can be damn sure he's treated like a guest, he's known me longer than most of my guests have! Food, drink, formal invitation and all. I am going to try to get him to give up the camera for at least a snap or two so he can be included in some candid photos as well. (If not, because camera are expensive, someone else with a camera will take a couple shots for me.)

    When I asked as a general inquiry about how much wedding photos were, he gave me one price, then asked if it was for my wedding. I said yes, he quoted me half. I argued with him and got him to come up a little (60%), but when I tried to get him to come up more (75%), I was told that either I paid the price he gave me, or I paid the higher price I was trying to get him to come up to, but then he'd feel obligated to go buy me a $200 toaster, and please don't make him try to find a $200 toaster. He doesn't like shopping. Just take the discount as my wedding gift.

    It was hard to argue with his logic. At least I got him from 50 to 60% so I don't feel like I'm totally robbing him."