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Divorced Men Reveal The Moment They Knew They Had To End Their Marriage

Updated January 6, 2021 483.8k views21 items

When a marriage goes bad, it tends to happen gradually. Feelings fester, little annoyances build up, red flags fly - but even if couples seek marriage counseling, and especially if they don't, the relationship can reach a breaking point, that unmagical moment when one spouse knows it's time to end a shattered union.

Numerous men have shared on Reddit the exact moment they knew it was time to ask their spouses for a divorce. While people often reap entertainment from expensive celebrity divorces, most of these Redditors are regular guys with stories of real heartache and hurt. Some of their tales about hitting rock bottom in their marriages are surprising, from lies about Lexuses and radio station largesse to missed vacations and purses that were more important than pets.

While these Reddit tales only share one side of the story, these moments do seem like grounds for a marital split.

  • She Had His Stuff Stolen So She Could Feed Her Substance Habit

    From Redditor /u/Carpe_cerevisiae:

    When she staged a robbery of our house so she could pawn all of my sh*t for... money [for illicit substances].

  • Their Toddler Said Another Man's Name

    From Redditor /u/from_mars_to_sirious:

    When my 2-year-old was learning to talk he would consistently say another bloke's name. Apparently he was there the moment I left for work until when I got home.

    [I've been a] single dad for five years with primary custody now.

  • She Left Him At The Airport

    From Redditor /u/jgratil:

    We flew across the country for her sister's wedding. She didn't say a word to me the entire time... Once we landed at our destination, we walked to baggage claim (absolute silence preceding for several hours now).

    At the carousel, I picked up her bag when she took it out of my hand and calmly stated, "None of my family knows you're here - I told them I came alone." She walked out of the airport and left me there.

  • She Threatened To End His Life

    From Redditor /u/RandyJ549:

    During the last year and a half of our marriage she became extremely psychologically abusive. She was a narcissist, controlled my every move, would isolate me, [and] refused physical contact.

    I was just an extension to her life, not allowed to talk to any female, not allowed to hang out with any friends or she would ignore me for up to five days at a time, double standards everywhere, verbal [mistreatment], and the list continues, but it hurts to think about.

    The last straw for me was when she threatened to [end my life] because I came home from work late, even though she knew I would be home late...

    This was the second time this happened, and I talked with several people at work about it and they suggested I run. I had texts of the threats on my phone and contacted a lawyer that same week. She agreed to sign since I told her I would take severe legal action if she didn't. Thankfully [we didn't have] children, and it was a clean divorce.