Reasons Guys Go after Quiet (but Not Shy) Girls

Michael Grimes
Updated October 25, 2021 1.9k votes 443 voters 36.8k views
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Guys - vote up the reason you most like dating quiet girls.
Quiet but strong, quiet but complicated, quiet but passionate - all traits of powerful women (not women who are afraid to speak their minds). Just because a girl is quiet doesn't mean she doesn't have opinions, and it doesn't mean she won't fight to the death for you. It's our theory that quiet but not shy girls are some of the best types of girls. Here are a few reasons why. 
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    She absorbs and listens

    Rather than just blurting something out at random and without consideration, a quiet girl actually absorbs what she's hearing. She is listening to you, she is listening to her surroundings, and above all, she is listening to herself. 
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    Under her quiet exterior is a strong and passionate personality

    A quiet exterior is merely an admirable cover for a complex and beautiful interior. Passionate personalities, strong sincerity - these are the kind of traits that are below that soft-spoken surface. A quiet girl is who she is because she can tune out the noise and not contribute any noise herself.
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    You can tell she empathizes with you

    A quiet girl doesn't make you wonder about whether or not she's listening to how you're feeling - or if she has felt that way before. 
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    146 VOTES

    She knows how to treat others

    The way to treat someone is with respect and with balance. If you are hogging the conversation, it is hard to be on your side. But this is the kind of girl who knows, whether through nature or through nurture or through both, that people should always have the chance to speak their mind. Rather than seeing this as weakness, people should see this as a sign of respect.

    Nobody deserves to be interrupted and nobody deserves to be talked over. She understands and recognizes both of these things, and she walks the walk (even if she doesn't loudly talk the talk).

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    She's not awkward when it comes to awkward silences

    Silences aren't awkward - you just make it that way. Silence doesn't faze a quiet girl - and she doesn't need to fill the void with meaningless dialog like life is some crappy rom-com. 
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    She isn't afraid to tell you the truth

    If you can't handle the truth, don't date a quiet girl. She'll speak up when it matters and she'll tell you like it is. She'll keep you in check and her quietness in no way means she fears confrontation. She has courage and confidence; in fact, she has enough that she doesn't need to fill spaces in conversations with comfortable lies or convenient untruths.

    She'll tell you what she means and you'll often need to hear it.