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Why It's Hard To Be A Woman

Updated June 8, 2017 60.3k views7 items
It's tough being a woman in this world. A recent article in the New York Times highlighted the perils facing women and girls around the world. This list is in no way in a ranked order, but it highlights some of the dangers facing women around the world. Don't worry this isn't just a depressing list of tragic situations around the world that will make you feel guilty about complaining about how long it took to get your iced mocha latte. With each item is also listed things you can do to help alleviate the situation for women and girls. And sometimes, it's as simple as just knowing the problem exists in the first place.
  • Childbirth

    Ah the joys of childbirth. Nine (actually closer to 10) months of anxiously awaiting your new bundle of joy. The greatest gift you can ever give or receive and THE NUMBER ONE KILLER OF WOMEN IN THE WORLD!!!! (duh. duh. duh - insert scary music) Why would you put yourself through this? Because, as that statistic is actually true, it's a world wide statistic and your chances of dying in childbirth are, like most of the top killers of women, directly correlated to your socioeconomic status and geographic location. Your lifetime risk of dying in childbirth if you live in Afghanistan? According to (, 1 in 8. If you are living in the United States, it's 1 in 4,800. True that's better than Afghanistan, but compare that to 1 in 8200 in the United Kingdom and 1 in 47,600 in Ireland, and I'd say the U.S. needs to step up their game. The causes of death in childbirth are often highly preventable, and prevention is key. The best chance of survival of childbirth is access to family planning services, and access to quality medical care during pregnancy and labor.
  • Exploitation of women's bodies

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    While the exploitation of women's bodies may not be a leading cause of death, it's definitely something to be considered when compiling a list of things that make being a woman difficult. And by exploitation of our bodies I mean everything from the depiction of women in rap songs to the buying and selling of sex with young girls for profit. For more info on Human Trafficking, visit According to RAINN ( 1 in 6 women will be sexually assaulted in their lifetime. And remember those statistics are only based on those who reported their crimes. The risk of hearing women referred to as objects in mainstream music? Incredibly high. Your risk of men yelling obscene comments at you at some point in your lifetime? I would estimate 1 in 1. While obviously not as damaging as sexual assault, still annoying to deal with. And the fact that risk comes only from the fact that we are women. As Bob Herbert stated in a recent NY Times column, "We have become so accustomed to living in a society saturated with misogyny that the barbaric treatment of women and girls has come to be more or less expected." (
  • Ridiculous standards of beauty

    In a recent book I was reading about improv for actors, and how to let go of our inhibitions and not be afraid to let our flaws show, the author challenged his male readers to look at one woman's magazine once a week just to see what we (as women) are up against. These standards are not just exclusive to U.S. western standards of beauty, other countries have their own standards. And as the U.S. continues to dominate much of world culture and entertainment, our beauty standards permeate around the world. The risk here is the length women and girls will go to achieve these standards of beauty.
  • Not being woman enough

    When I was growing up, I was often the only girl playing with a group of guys. If I didn't run fast enough, it's because I was a girl. If I couldn't catch the football, it's cause I was a girl. If I couldn't hit the baseball with the bat, it's cause I was a girl. As I got older I began to argue that my inability to succeed at sports was more a result of my lack of practice and hand-eye coordination, and not based on the fact that I have ovaries and menstruate every 28-30 days.

    So it didn't surprise me when (okay actually it did, cause it's 2009) Caster Semenya's gender identity was brought into question when she improved her 800m personal best by 7 seconds in less than 9 months. Was it hard work and diligent training? Possibly. The use of performance enhancing drugs? Perhaps. Is it possible she's not actually a female? Let's explore this further. This sounds like the most likely explanation. The title of this category is misleading because I don't think the improvement of a race time makes her less than a woman. I would assume she's a hardworking athlete. But leave it to our patriarchal world to question a woman's athletic success.