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People Who Divorced Within One Year Of Marriage Explain What Happened

Updated November 13, 2019 26.5k views17 items

Long before the 25-year silver wedding anniversary, the first year of a marriage is traditionally supposed to be celebrated with paper (moving on to cotton and leather in the second and third years, respectively). But for some couples, the only paper they get to in that first 365 days is a divorce decree. Why people get divorced so fast might seem puzzling. How could the honeymoon effect disappear so quickly? Well, for some, the honeymoon was the breaking point.

What causes divorce? People on Reddit who broke off their marriages within a year shared their reasons for divorce, and tales of what happened to turn their wedded bliss into marital misery. 

This list of why people got divorced in a year might worry a few brides- and grooms-to-be, but it also might help them be aware of some warning signs before they sign a marriage certificate, or pop the question in the first place.

  • While He Was In Iraq, His Ex Posted A Photo Of Herself With Another Man

    From Redditor /u/Hiraethion:

    When I was in Iraq and she posted a picture on Facebook of her and another guy [lying] in bed together, it was obvious that they had just hooked up.

    Don’t get married to fix relationships (pro life tip).

  • Their Husband Wasn’t Supportive When Their Brother Perished

    From Redditor /u/stilllittlespacey:

    My brother [passed] a week after the wedding, and after about two months, he told me that was just too big of a thing to happen in the beginning of a marriage.

    I tried for six more months and then just gave up.

  • His Ex Had An Affair While He Was Undergoing Cancer Treatment

    From Redditor /u/Nika65:

    When I caught my new bride having a workplace affair while I was receiving cancer treatments. It was not a pleasant time for me...

    This happened about 25 years ago (yes, I am an old guy). It really sucked at the time... the day I found out I was a few months into both a major surgery and then daily radiation treatment. I was down to about 118 from my normal 155 pounds. But as it turned out, it was really a good thing. We did not have a house or kids, and the divorce was rather simple. I went on to get married again and have three incredible kids I would never have had otherwise. The entire experience taught me a lot about the power of forgiveness (admittedly, it took me too long to learn this lesson), and I have a pretty great life today...

    So we tried the whole marriage counseling thing after I caught her. The marriage counselor, however, was my wife's personal therapist. We had one meeting and the therapist asked to meet with me privately. She subsequently reported to my wife, "Um, Nika seems to have a lot of anger..." Ya think! I had just lost over 20% of my body weight, I was still going through treatments, and I found out my wife of less than a year was sleeping with a co-worker...

  • Their Ex Lied About Being $500,000 In Debt

    From Redditor /u/Li54:

    When I found out he had $500,000 in debt that he hadn't told me about beforehand.

    (Yes, we had a prenup. He just lied about it on the prenup.)