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Things You Should Stop Apologizing For  

Lauren Slocum
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Saying "I'm sorry" has become a ridiculously compulsive and all too natural response in everyday dialog. And frankly, it's getting pretty out of hand. People are just flat out apologizing too much. If you had a nickel for every time you said the s-word throughout the day, you'd probably make an extra $14.00 a week. Pretty soon people are going to be walking around apologizing for thinking and breathing and eating food and being alive! This over-apologizing has got to stop.

It's one of the strangest phenomena in the human psyche... for some reason we feel the need to take responsibility for things that actually have nothing to do with us. Most apologies fly out of our mouths before we even have a chance to give a crap about the situation we're apologizing for. And the strangest thing is that people still act touched when they receive one of these insincere, impromptu apologies.

Someone bumps into you in the store and suddenly you're apologizing to them and trying to swiftly move out of the way. Your friend tells you a terrible story about their uncle's brother's cousin's sister who broke her ankle on the stairs and there you are, stroking your friend's arm and showering them with s-words and pathetic accolades. There is a time and a place for sincere apologies, but how about a different approach? 

Who's responsible? Do women apologize too much? Do men? At the end of the day, all that matters is that we reign in this unnecessary apology epidemic. Have some self-confidence. Think about your words before you spit them out and you'll be amazed at the difference in the way you communicate with people. To help you get away from making all those hasty apologies, read through this list of things you should stop apologizing about! Vote up the apologies you're most guilty of! 

list ordered by
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Saying No to People is listed (or ranked) 1 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Saying No to People
Sometimes you just have to say no. When you do, don't feel bad about it.
2
Wanting to Be Alone is listed (or ranked) 2 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Wanting to Be Alone
Some people should probably spend more time alone than others. Don't feel bad when you get some quality "me time."
3
Asking for Help is listed (or ranked) 3 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Asking for Help

Don't feel bad asking for some help. Pay it forward before you apologize.

4
Asking Questions is listed (or ranked) 4 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Asking Questions
Apologizing for being inquisitive can make you come off as weak. Be confident. Be curious. Be an ass-kicker.
5
Being Sick is listed (or ranked) 5 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Being Sick
Since when is sneezing a sin? Throw on your PJs and feel no shame.
6
Changing Your Mind is listed (or ranked) 6 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Changing Your Mind
You're your own boss. Don't feel bad if you end up changing your mind about something and definitely don't apologize for it. 
7
Other People's Actions is listed (or ranked) 7 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Other People's Actions
People need to be responsible for themselves. Only assume responsibility for your children. 
8
Your Physical Appearance is listed (or ranked) 8 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Your Physical Appearance
You are who you are. If you want to change, do it, but don't apologize for things you're not.
9
Getting Emotional is listed (or ranked) 9 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Getting Emotional
Do you apologize for having toes? Come on. Everyone has emotions. 
10
Having a Life is listed (or ranked) 10 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Having a Life
Being busy isn't a sin. Don't feel bad about having a life. 
11
Apologizing is listed (or ranked) 11 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Apologizing
Apologizing for apologizing is like a dog chasing it's own tail. Super meta. 
12
Not Wearing Makeup is listed (or ranked) 12 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Wearing Makeup
Ugh. You probably look just fine. Shut up about it already. 
13
Being Honest is listed (or ranked) 13 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Being Honest
The truth will set you free! Be confident, not apologetic, about the way you feel.
14
Things You've Already Apologiz... is listed (or ranked) 14 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Things You've Already Apologized For
If you've already apologized, let it go. Don't risk coming off as insincere. 
15
When Someone Else Bumps Into Y... is listed (or ranked) 15 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When Someone Else Bumps Into You
There's no need to apologize because someone bumped into you!
16
Past Mistakes is listed (or ranked) 16 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Past Mistakes
Don't repeat apologies for mistakes you made a long time ago.
17
Not Being Interested in Someon... is listed (or ranked) 17 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Being Interested in Someone
You can't help who you love. Don't go apologizing to the people you don't.
18
Not Responding to Social Media... is listed (or ranked) 18 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Responding to Social Media Notifications
Never apologize for unplugging. You deserve it.
19
What You're Wearing is listed (or ranked) 19 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
What You're Wearing
Rock it. Own it. Screw what everyone else thinks. 
20
Staying in Bed All Day is listed (or ranked) 20 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Staying in Bed All Day
Why would you apologize for having one of the best days of your life? Think about it. 
21
Not Really Being Sorry is listed (or ranked) 21 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Really Being Sorry

If you don't mean it, don't apologize.

22
Not Calling Someone Back Right... is listed (or ranked) 22 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Calling Someone Back Right Away
Don't let the 21st century dictate your life. You owe zero apologies. 
23
When the Meal You Cooked Didn&... is listed (or ranked) 23 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When the Meal You Cooked Didn't Turn Out Perfectly
There's nothing more annoying than an apologizing chef. If you cooked someone a meal, they should be gracious. 
24
Not Being in the Mood for Sex is listed (or ranked) 24 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Being in the Mood for Sex
Whatever the reason, sometimes you're just not feelin' it. Don't grovel! Just go to sleep.
25
When You Return Something to a... is listed (or ranked) 25 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When You Return Something to a Store
It just didn't work out. No need to explain yourself.