Saying "I'm sorry" has become a ridiculously compulsive and all too natural response in everyday dialog. And frankly, it's getting pretty out of hand. People are just flat out apologizing too much. If you had a nickel for every time you said the s-word throughout the day, you'd probably make an extra $14.00 a week. Pretty soon people are going to be walking around apologizing for thinking and breathing and eating food and being alive! This over-apologizing has got to stop.
It's one of the strangest phenomena in the human psyche... for some reason we feel the need to take responsibility for things that actually have nothing to do with us. Most apologies fly out of our mouths before we even have a chance to give a crap about the situation we're apologizing for. And the strangest thing is that people still act touched when they receive one of these insincere, impromptu apologies.
Someone bumps into you in the store and suddenly you're apologizing to them and trying to swiftly move out of the way. Your friend tells you a terrible story about their uncle's brother's cousin's sister who broke her ankle on the stairs and there you are, stroking your friend's arm and showering them with s-words and pathetic accolades. There is a time and a place for sincere apologies, but how about a different approach?
Who's responsible? Do women apologize too much? Do men? At the end of the day, all that matters is that we reign in this unnecessary apology epidemic. Have some self-confidence. Think about your words before you spit them out and you'll be amazed at the difference in the way you communicate with people. To help you get away from making all those hasty apologies, read through this list of things you should stop apologizing about! Vote up the apologies you're most guilty of!
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Saying No to People Sometimes you just have to say no. When you do, don't feel bad about it.
Wanting to Be Alone Some people should probably spend more time alone than others. Don't feel bad when you get some quality "me time."
Asking Questions Apologizing for being inquisitive can make you come off as weak. Be confident. Be curious. Be an ass-kicker.
Asking for Help Don't feel bad asking for some help. Pay it forward before you apologize.
Being Sick Since when is sneezing a sin? Throw on your PJs and feel no shame.
Your Physical Appearance You are who you are. If you want to change, do it, but don't apologize for things you're not.
Other People's Actions People need to be responsible for themselves. Only assume responsibility for your children.
Changing Your Mind You're your own boss. Don't feel bad if you end up changing your mind about something and definitely don't apologize for it.
Getting Emotional Do you apologize for having toes? Come on. Everyone has emotions.
Having a Life Being busy isn't a sin. Don't feel bad about having a life.
Not Wearing Makeup Ugh. You probably look just fine. Shut up about it already.
Apologizing Apologizing for apologizing is like a dog chasing it's own tail. Super meta.
Being Honest The truth will set you free! Be confident, not apologetic, about the way you feel.
Past Mistakes Don't repeat apologies for mistakes you made a long time ago.