hacks Things You Should Stop Apologizing For  

Lauren Slocum
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Saying "I'm sorry" has become a ridiculously compulsive and all too natural response in everyday dialog. And frankly, it's getting pretty out of hand. People are just flat out apologizing too much. If you had a nickel for every time you said the s-word throughout the day, you'd probably make an extra $14.00 a week. Pretty soon people are going to be walking around apologizing for thinking and breathing and eating food and being alive! This over-apologizing has got to stop.

It's one of the strangest phenomena in the human psyche... for some reason we feel the need to take responsibility for things that actually have nothing to do with us. Most apologies fly out of our mouths before we even have a chance to give a crap about the situation we're apologizing for. And the strangest thing is that people still act touched when they receive one of these insincere, impromptu apologies.

Someone bumps into you in the store and suddenly you're apologizing to them and trying to swiftly move out of the way. Your friend tells you a terrible story about their uncle's brother's cousin's sister who broke her ankle on the stairs and there you are, stroking your friend's arm and showering them with s-words and pathetic accolades. There is a time and a place for sincere apologies, but how about a different approach? 

Who's responsible? Do women apologize too much? Do men? At the end of the day, all that matters is that we reign in this unnecessary apology epidemic. Have some self-confidence. Think about your words before you spit them out and you'll be amazed at the difference in the way you communicate with people. To help you get away from making all those hasty apologies, read through this list of things you should stop apologizing about! Vote up the apologies you're most guilty of! 

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707 71
Saying No to People is listed (or ranked) 1 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Saying No to People Sometimes you just have to say no. When you do, don't feel bad about it.

2
686 82
Wanting to Be Alone is listed (or ranked) 2 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Wanting to Be Alone Some people should probably spend more time alone than others. Don't feel bad when you get some quality "me time."

3
575 89
Asking Questions is listed (or ranked) 3 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Asking Questions Apologizing for being inquisitive can make you come off as weak. Be confident. Be curious. Be an ass-kicker.

4
522 79
Asking for Help is listed (or ranked) 4 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Asking for Help Don't feel bad asking for some help. Pay it forward before you apologize.

5
518 87
Being Sick is listed (or ranked) 5 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Being Sick Since when is sneezing a sin? Throw on your PJs and feel no shame.

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501 94
Other People's Actions is listed (or ranked) 6 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Other People's Actions People need to be responsible for themselves. Only assume responsibility for your children. 

7
545 112
Your Physical Appearance is listed (or ranked) 7 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Your Physical Appearance You are who you are. If you want to change, do it, but don't apologize for things you're not.

8
468 86
Changing Your Mind is listed (or ranked) 8 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Changing Your Mind You're your own boss. Don't feel bad if you end up changing your mind about something and definitely don't apologize for it. 

9
417 94
Getting Emotional is listed (or ranked) 9 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Getting Emotional Do you apologize for having toes? Come on. Everyone has emotions. 

10
408 93
Having a Life is listed (or ranked) 10 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Having a Life Being busy isn't a sin. Don't feel bad about having a life. 

11
424 115
Being Honest is listed (or ranked) 11 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Being Honest The truth will set you free! Be confident, not apologetic, about the way you feel.

12
412 110
Not Wearing Makeup is listed (or ranked) 12 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Wearing Makeup Ugh. You probably look just fine. Shut up about it already. 

13
371 92
Apologizing is listed (or ranked) 13 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Apologizing Apologizing for apologizing is like a dog chasing it's own tail.  Super meta. 

14
355 102
Past Mistakes is listed (or ranked) 14 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Past Mistakes Don't repeat apologies for mistakes you made a long time ago.

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389 123
Staying in Bed All Day is listed (or ranked) 15 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Staying in Bed All Day Why would you apologize for having one of the best days of your life? Think about it. 

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322 100
What You're Wearing is listed (or ranked) 16 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
What You're Wearing Rock it. Own it. Screw what everyone else thinks. 

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256 69
When Someone Else Bumps Into Y... is listed (or ranked) 17 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When Someone Else Bumps Into You There's no need to apologize because someone bumped into you!

18
332 112
Not Calling Someone Back Right... is listed (or ranked) 18 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Calling Someone Back Right Away Don't let the 21st century dictate your life. You owe zero apologies. 

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289 90
Not Responding to Social Media... is listed (or ranked) 19 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Responding to Social Media Notifications Never apologize for unplugging. You deserve it.

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235 61
Things You've Already Apologiz... is listed (or ranked) 20 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Things You've Already Apologized For If you've already apologized, let it go. Don't risk coming off as insincere. 

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298 96
Not Really Being Sorry is listed (or ranked) 21 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Really Being Sorry If you don't mean it, don't apologize.

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288 96
When the Meal You Cooked Didn&... is listed (or ranked) 22 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When the Meal You Cooked Didn't Turn Out Perfectly There's nothing more annoying than an apologizing chef. If you cooked someone a meal, they should be gracious. 

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298 102
Not Being in the Mood for Sex is listed (or ranked) 23 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Being in the Mood for Sex Whatever the reason, sometimes you're just not feelin' it. Don't grovel! Just go to sleep.

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216 61
Not Being Interested in Someon... is listed (or ranked) 24 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Being Interested in Someone You can't help who you love. Don't go apologizing to the people you don't.

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276 96
When You Return Something to a... is listed (or ranked) 25 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When You Return Something to a Store It just didn't work out. No need to explain yourself. 

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265 98
Your Diet is listed (or ranked) 26 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Your Diet It's your choice to eat what you want. Don't apologize for your conscious decisions. 

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208 71
When There's Something Nasty i... is listed (or ranked) 27 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When There's Something Nasty in Your Food You don't have to be a jerk but you also don't have to feel bad about it. 

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195 68
Being Sweaty When You See Some... is listed (or ranked) 28 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Being Sweaty When You See Someone Out in Public You just worked out! If they want a sweaty hug that's their prerogative. 

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246 101
Not Shaving is listed (or ranked) 29 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Not Shaving Applicable to all genders and a variety of body parts.

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174 66
When Someone Confides in You A... is listed (or ranked) 30 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
When Someone Confides in You About Their Troubles Come up with something more sincere to say than, "I'm sorry."

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175 77
Leaving the Bar Early is listed (or ranked) 31 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Leaving the Bar Early Good for you! Your drunk friends will forget you left in like 10 minutes. 

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168 77
Your Food Allergies is listed (or ranked) 32 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Your Food Allergies It's not like you wanted to be allergic to cheese!

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161 90
Falling Asleep Early at a Frie... is listed (or ranked) 33 on the list Things You Should Stop Apologizing For
Falling Asleep Early at a Friend's House Sleeping is like, the third best thing in the world. Don't feel sorry for doing it.